H. Jackson Brown, the author of "Life's Little Instruction Booklet", said that a person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.  I don't know if that is scientifically true but I do know that it is a very important human need that forms a huge void when not fulfilled.

Have you noticed that your attitude towards a menial, insignificant task can be reframed with just a little encouragement or appreciation from someone meaningful in your life?

I think I would be so much better at certain "responsibilities" if I felt like there was some appreciation for them rather than an expectation.  Let's take cooking as an example.  I used to love cooking and look forward to unwinding from a long day with a glass of wine while I stirred the risotto.  Now it's a chore and another thing that I have to check off on my long to do list each day.  And then I have to clean up!  

Appreciation is recognizing the efforts of others....and saying something! I do appreciate the things that I have and 90% of the time am very positive.  But there are those days when I am worn out......and one comment of appreciation can really make it all worth it.  Seeing how much it impacts me makes me realize that I need to give more appreciation to others - my husband, family members, friends, teachers, patients, customer service people, etc..... No one really has an "easy" job and everyone is working hard towards some goal.  

How to appreciate more:


  • Say something! Even if it is just a thank you to your morning barista

  • Notice the little, thankless things that people do everyday: my husband takes out the trash everyday and I am so happy that I don't have to do it. I appreciate those little gestures and need to tell him more!

  • Think of three good things that happened to you during the day and every night before you go to sleep, write them down. I first heard about this from Bryan Sexton and Duke University and it works!

  • Thank you notes, recognition to your employees at work and well wishes to your customers are all great ways to build motivation and create good will in others.

Start practicing a little more appreciation today and I guarantee your outlook will change!

WellnessJoanna Simmon